Compromise often is the practical solution to dichotomous situations, as Professor Pamela Behan points out in her letter of Jan 25. As a pro-life supporter, I think she is right that the ethical concerns regarding the sanctity of life are paramount in our view.
The professor states, on the other hand, those opposed to abortion need to “understand that women who cannot control their fertility cannot control their lives, health, careers or family budgets.” This is where she loses me a bit. Although none of us has control, we do make choices in our lives in the areas she mentions. With choices, come outcomes.
Let me offer a different perspective to those who find themselves with an unwanted pregnancy. Instead of seeing an untimely or unwelcome pregnancy as an unfortunate consequence (punishment) for one’s actions, perhaps one is being offered a blessing (opportunity) — that of being able to bring a new life into the world.
By working in adoption for two years, I saw firsthand the many couples wanting desperately to have children. I witnessed beautiful and precious gifts being made, albeit most often with heartache and tears.
In another letter, Dr. W.A. Krotoski points out how the use of negative rhetoric such as “anti-abortion” (which, I guess, is better than “anti-choice”) is used to discredit the pro-life supporters. Even worse, in my opinion, is the use of language such as “baby killers,” often used by the pro-life group to demonize the pro-choice supporters.
I have also attended these events from time to time and am put off by the attacking stances being made on both sides. In support of compromise let me say, there are times when it probably is not feasible to carry a pregnancy to delivery. Then again, using abortion as birth control or because one does not wish to be pregnant, is unethical in my opinion.
Mother Teresa said it best, “Any country that accepts abortion, is not teaching its people to love, but to use violence to get what they want. That is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion.”